Holding them close | WW

Facebook is good for keeping up with people. No need for high school reunions or get togethers, because you can get it all on there (not discounting the face to face interactions, of course).

However, you are also privy to the heartbreak, the pain, and the loss. Miscarriage and infertility, death, accidents, divorce and more. 

Today while reading, I found a post that stopped me in my tracks. Not somebody I talk to, really, but somebody I knew way back in high school; we were in the same classes and graduated together. With a husband and two beautiful little girls that she unexpectedly left behind. Their lives will never be the same. They lost their wife and mother.

And, it puts things into perspective. 

All those things that I think matter. They don’t. Not in the grand scheme of things. 

What matters? Showing them you love them at every single chance. Telling them you love them a hundred times a day. Because the thought of them being without me, or me without them? Scares the shit out of me. So I’m going to hug them, and love them and really keep it all in perspective as best I can. When they ask me to take a picture, I’m going to stop what I’m doing. When they want my attention to tell me something, I’m going to listen.

When they want to hug on their sister and touch her and kiss her, I’m going to {safely} let them.

(I’m sorry mom and grandma for cussing. Sometimes, there isn’t another way to say something to convey it!)

Sister Hugs

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  1. says

    Hello! I felt the same way earlier – and I still am – with these little boys dying on Lake Lanier. It just hit too close to home… I wrote a post about it too. The feeling – the reality – is hard to shake. Anyway …
    I love the picture of your little ones! I hate that I didn’t get a chance to talk to you today at the GSMM meet-up – I would have loved to talk ‘shop’ – are you still designing websites? Great post and maybe our paths will cross again soon!

    • says

      Oh, no kidding. I can’t even comprehend how those parents feel. Way, way too close to home.

      Social events and kids really don’t mix, do they? Sorry we didn’t get a chance to chat. And, yes, still doing sites (www.krizzydesigns.com)

  2. Emily says

    That is really sad. Your post is perfect…mom and grandma will get over it. Miss those girls like crazy.

  3. grandpa says

    Great article sweetie,
    Love is the greatest gift that we can possible give to people.

    I love you
    Please give Matt and My granddaughters a hug and kiss from grandpa.

    Grandpa Joe
    P.S. I could hug all of you more if you lived in texas….. :-)

  4. nancy says

    thank you. thank you for the reminder. it’s good indeed to know that we really have no flippin’ clue what tomorrow holds for any of us.
    And those girls of yours are really stinkin’ cute too!
    nancy-of the crazy 9

  5. pat chance says

    thank you for the great reminder about family and life. Very sorry to hear about your fellow classmate. Cussing once and a while is OK. Give the girls and Matt a big hig from Grandma. I love you all very much.

  6. says

    That is so sad to hear and so young. Prayers for her family. And you are right…nothing else matters but showing how much you love your family…even if it means hugs that are a little too tight by big brother.
    Jenny´s last blog post ..A Big Deal…

  7. says

    One of my husband’s HS classmates passed away from undiagnosed postpartum issues less than 3 weeks after having her second son. He went to school with her and her husband. I was out of town w/ Baby S when he found out and he called me so distraught. I blogged about the postpartum issues I had and I had just been diagnosed w/ Bells Palsy a few days prior. He just kept saying how happy he was that I’m still here and that he knows all of this is rough on me but to remember that I’m still there w/ them. It really put everything into perspective for me and I’ve tried to remember that when I’m having a particularly emotional day.
    Bella Rose´s last blog post ..Short Post–Breastfeeding Annoyances

  8. says

    How terribly sad… I know just what you mean about your children being everything to you. Mine still are and they are 21 & 24. We still talk almost every day via FB or text. Just to say hi or I love you. If they would, I would have them still living with me. =)
    This was an amazing post, sorry it took me so long to get to it.


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