When I was asking what was my mom thinking, I was not criticizing at all.
I think my mom did a fabulous job. And, I’m pretty sure I turned out all right, and so did my sister. I don’t have a police record or anything. And, while I did get some freedoms, there were also other things she was very strict on.
In fact, the reason my mom was more lenient with me? I was a really good kid. Too good. I was so scared of getting into trouble that I really didn’t do anything bad (well, except the driving thing). And, I was/am a prude. My mom knew that she could trust me whole-heartedly.
For example, every year on the night before the first day of school, the seniors would tp the main drive into the school. A bunch of friends and I went and met up with some other friends. It was tradition. Everybody knew it, nobody ever got in trouble for it. However, when I got there, I noticed that some people were drinking and smoking (and let’s just say it wasn’t tobacco).
So, you know what I did? I left. Immediately. I didn’t even want to be guilty by association.
When I went home and told my mom was what going on and why I left. She was proud of me.
I’ve actually never smoked a cigarette, or that funny other stuff. I’ve never smoked anything (not even a turkey…I crack myself up).
I know I gave some pretty extreme examples yesterday, but really, those were the only two things I could think of.
My point was, while we were able to do things (or not able to do them) we are going to have different rules and regulations than our parents. And, yes, we are going to be hypocrites. Because, really, aren’t all parents?
PS About the staying the night thing; it was once. And did you see above where I said I was/am a prude. It was true then, too!