When your daughter comes home, for the first time, and tells you a kid has been bullying her. Your heart breaks, and then you go into full on momma-bear mode. I’m so glad she came home and talked to us about it (a little boy said he wanted to kick her teeth it. Seriously, what the heck is that about…and for no reason, either). Immediately, Mr. Serious and I had a talk and then talked with her.
We suggested that she walk away from him whenever he was talking to her and ask him to please stop talking to her like that.
We also immediately contacted the teacher to let her know what was going on, and she was very quick to make sure to let us know that she was going to remedy it and also keep an eye on things.
I don’t know why any little turd would want to mess with my daughters, but I’ll be damned if I let it happen to them (to the best of my abilities). I wanted to make sure we were handling things the right way on our end, as well as what we told her.
Daddy Nickell, owner of Daddy Scrubs provides valuable and unique advice for parents, and especially dads, on how to give your child the self-confidence, skills and power to stand up (and proudly walk away) from bullying. I invited him to share some dos and don’ts of handling bullying at school (or any other place kids interact).
Do: Teach your child the best ways to handle a bullying situation. If your own child is being bullied, teach them the best method is not to provoke a fight, but to simply and calmly (as hard as it might be) walk away and find the nearest adult (teacher or principal) who can help you. If your child is not the person being bullied but rather is witness to another child being bullied they can help by alerting a teacher or principal and being a kind and empathetic friend to the child being bullied.
Don’t: As a dad it’s hard not to want to fight a battle for your child (figuratively speaking), but do not overstep your boundaries. You could possibly make it worse for your child. If you’re a concerned parent call the school and talk with a principal or teacher and tell them the severity of the bullying situation. They’ll take the necessary measure to better watch the bully and give out consequences based on future actions.
Do: Talk! A lot! Talk to your child as much as possible about what’s going on at school, with their friends and their overall lives – you’ll be surprised by the things you’ll learn. Use the opportunity to build your child’s self-esteem as being a victim of bullying can often make a child feel puny. Discuss ways in which your child succeeds in school and at home and the things that make your child really happy. Be their rock. Build upon their strengths by giving them defense mechanisms like talking calmly, making jokes and more.
Don’t: Do nothing. Doing nothing does not work. And as a parent it’s your responsibility to do something to help your child in any situation. Be sure your moves are calculated, as your child will likely be watching and learning from your way of handling the situation.
Handling bullying can be hard, but there are ways in which parents should help by getting involved and teaching their children the best ways to handle situations. It’s important to be on the lookout for signs of bullying, and to handle each situation delicately and with dignity, as your child will be watching and learning from you.
Bottom line: teach your child to be a kind and empathetic human being who looks out for others and knows how to react and handle a bullying situation should they ever be caught in one. Good luck and happy parenting!
Robert Nickell (known as Daddy Nickell), owner of DaddyScrubs, provides valuable and unique advice for parents, and especially dads, on how to give your child the self-confidence, skills and power to stand up (and proudly walk away) from bullying. A father of three, Daddy Nickell developed DaddyScrubs to provide products and support to dads throughout all stages of fatherhood, including strong, empowering advice that helps dads all over the world develops capable, self-confident and successful kids. For more information on DaddyScrubs and Daddy Nickell, please visit www.DaddyScrubs.com.
What tips do you have or have you taught your kids if they are the victims of bullying? It’s so sad and scary to think how quickly things can turn, so I want to make sure I’m doing the best I can for my girls.