With our first daughter, people were happy it was a girl, followed immediately by “are you going to try for a boy?” I mean literally, still getting stitches and people asked. With the second, it was a little more hesitantly asked, but still “are you going to try for a boy?” Yes, even after the third and the fourth. People.Still.Ask.
Apparently, it is upsetting to other people that we only have girls. Apparently we need a boy.
And, nobody is really nice about it, either. In fact, often times asking in from front of the girls about having all girls. Because girls aren’t awesome?
I just sat and had a discussion and can’t come up with one legitimate thing that a man can do that a woman cannot. And, women? Can give birth to babies, so there. Awesome!
This is the short list of things people have said to me, or my husband or both of us. And, we would really be quite okay with never being asked them again, especially not in front of our awesome girls. The girls, of course, have started to answer for us, too because they are “so over it, mom!”
1. So, are you going to try for a boy?
The only people allowed to discuss the state of my uterus and it’s inhabitants are my husband and my midwives. This totally tells me and my girls that they aren’t good enough. Only a boy would be good enough.
2. Are you done?
Done? Done with what? Having children? Why? Because I can’t be done until I have a boy?
3. I feel sorry for you.
And I feel sorry for you! What is to feel sorry about? I have awesome girls. They can do anything a son can do. Do not feel sorry for me!
4. Be ready to be broke.
And usually a list of things follows like weddings and proms and dances, etc. I’d venture to guess that my mom friends of boys will tell me that they are equally expensive. Yes, life is expensive. People are expensive. I don’t plan to be broke because we have and will continue to plan well for our future and theirs.
5. That’s a lot of weddings.
And, what a blessing they will be!
6. Are they all yours?
We seem to get this one a lot about our red heads, too. I suppose they could be friends, but they all look alike. Last time I checked, you can’t pick up small children on aisle 9 at the grocery store. Well, since we have 4, maybe it would be at a bulk store?
7. Hahahahaha / LOL / rolling on the floor…
Yes. Laughing. In our faces. What is funny? It’s really appreciated when you literally count the girls out loud in front of them and continue to laugh. Or even say it “wow, all girls :snicker: “.
8. Oh, I bet the teenage years are going to be fun in your house. ::hormones::
I taught high school for 6 years. All teenagers are hormonal. Trust me!
9. Do you have your gun ready?
What is this gun for? Shooting? Pointing? At my daughter? At a boy?
10. Sigh…you have all girls!
Seriously? Really? Oh my goodness. Thank you so much for telling me. I had no idea!
Let’s stop feeling like we have to say something about the state of another person’s family. A simple “you are blessed” or “you are lucky” carries so much weight. Thinking you are funny or original with a comment like the above? Well, you aren’t. We’ve heard them all!
I know my fellow girl moms and all boy moms get very similar comments, what’s your “favorite?”