“How could he/she do that? I would never do that.“
I know I hear people say this all the time. You hear something on the news, a story relayed by a friend, and immediately, you judge and think or even speak you could never do that.
I’ve learned very quickly in my parenting and mothering that I just can’t say “I would never…” because we change, we make mistakes and we fail. Often.
Most of the time, for myself, it’s not knowing any better. Yes, I tried to put our intact carseat in the top of a grocery cart (it wouldn’t fit, thankfully, and I’ve since learned this is dangerous!!). We’ve had a trip to the ER because I didn’t know about bolting dressers and furniture to the walls. We’ve had a fall on the stairs that resulted in a cast on one leg and an ambulance ride to the hospital for another daughter. If this is where you feel the need to comment about our lack of paying attention or anything else rude, just click away now. Because your level of perfect is no match for me!
Yesterday, Mr. Serious and I took the youngest two to the grocery store while the older two were at AWANA. This is completely out of routine for us. Wrong day, wrong adults wrong kids. All just off. We had a happy little baby in her carrier and a very helpful almost three year old pushing her cart around the store. Oh and she was loud.
We bagged our groceries and headed to the car. I opened B’s side and buckled her into her seat, E crawled through the middle, grabbed her sister’s toy and got in her seat. Mr. Serious handed me the keys, (he was driving…also, out of the norm) and he returned the cart to the corral. I got in the passenger side and started the car.
Mr. Serious came back, got in the car and we headed back home.
About 2 traffic lights from home, E asks me a question and I turn around to talk to her.
I FORGOT TO BUCKLE HER IN HER CARSEAT!!!!
Yes. Me. I did. I was out of routine of walking around to the driver’s side like I normally do. I did things differently and I forgot to buckle my most precious cargo into her carseat. One of the things that I’m most diligent about (car seat safety). We take jackets off before getting in them. We readjust them every time.
But you know what?
THEY DON’T DO A DAMN THING IF YOU DON’T BUCKLE YOUR KID INTO THEM!
We were stopped at a traffic light and I immediately unbuckled myself (yes, I did. Save it!) and turned around and buckled her. I apologized many times to her and Mr. Serious (being so very thankful that nothing happened).
One little change in my routine, or a series of bigger ones and I did (or didn’t) do something I’m certain I could have said I would have never done.
I still don’t know which part had me not buckle her in. And I won’t ever know. But, I’m making myself quadrupole check all seats all buckles and all seat belts because I don’t want it to happen again. (While I would like to say it will never happen again, I know that I can’t guarantee that! I sure will try!)
Sweet E, I’m so glad that you are okay, that nothing happened and that you will forgive me. Because I need a lot of grace as a mom. I screw up. I will screw up. But, I will give you my best and strive for even better. I know that I’m not perfect. I know that I can’t ever safely say “I would never” because if I did, I know I’d be lying to myself and to you!
It’s time again for Mommy and Me Monday. Pop out from behind that camera and capture yourself in action with your kids. Check out the inaugural Mommy and Me Monday for more information. Need another reason to participate in Mommy and Me Monday? Read my post about why I blog with words from a friends’ husband.
**There really is only one requirement here, a picture of you and your baby or babies; your children, your “baby” (ie significant other) or even your fur babies. If your picture doesn’t feature you (meaning you must be in the picture), I will have to delete your link. It’s not fair to the others that follow the rules.*