Disclaimer. I know. This sounds judgmental. I’m really not trying to be. I want people to open their eyes and think about what their words can really mean and do.
What the heck is happening to people? I’m starting to think humanity has lost it’s collective damn mind.
Just today, two baby carrier companies announced one is purchasing another.
Maybe it’s the optimist in me, but let’s just think this could be good for everybody involved.
But, nope, nope, nope.
I’m paraphrasing and combining people’s words here, but you get the gist:
“If I wanted cheap, I’d buy X-brand.”
“I hate X-brand. It’s a terrible carrier. I can’t believe this.”
“Bye X-brand. I wanted to buy small. You sold out.”
“I hope X-brand doesn’t suffer from this merge.”
“X-brand is elite. Y-brand is not.”
“You’ve betrayed your fans and customers.”
“Why not let one brand just fail?”
People. Okay, I’ll say it, women are being nasty! These are people’s companies you are talking about. Their livelihoods. Their second and third babies.
AND….AND the amount of judging (indirect or otherwise) that is happening because one person choses to use one carrier over another? It’s ridiculous! These moms and dads want what is best for them and their kids. And, maybe it does boil down to a budget, but they are doing their best.
So, telling people (yes, it’s basically being said) that they are using a cheap brand or non-quality brand IS a punch in the gut.
I can only imagine a mom reading that after finally settling her baby for the night. Heck, for the minute and she’s taking a break and hops of Facebook only to find that people are indirectly telling her that she doesn’t have what’s best for her baby. She’s made a poor choice. She’s neglecting her baby.
Maybe that’s not what you read. Maybe that’s not what you meant if you typed it. But think of that parent…maybe the one that has suffered through nights and days and weeks of postpartum depression or anxiety. Think of the mom that is second guessing every single mothering choice she’s made. And here in her face, she’s being told that she’s a failure.
Maybe this is all a stretch. Maybe I’m taking it to an extreme. But, I’m trying to look at this through another parent’s eyes (and even through my own) and I’m disgusted with what I’m reading.
Let’s change our thinking. Let’s slow down and think about our words. Let’s support each other and build each other up.
Let’s baby wear and get along. Or as the hashtag says #keepcalmandbabywearon