The other day I popped into my google reader and saw a blog come up that I hadn’t seen in a while. I didn’t even remember the last time I had checked in. I was so excited. I worked on Marla’s blog design and we chatted via email and then sort of lost touch. Immediately, I popped over to check in on her world and her boys.
As I started reading, I realized it wasn’t her. It was different and things weren’t right. It was her husband writing. Writing to say that his wife of almost 14 years had left this world too early. Gone in a blink. Leaving her husband and two boys behind. I was devastated and heart broken for them. But, I kept reading and was truly amazed at his words.
He said what I’ve never been able to say. Why I blog. Why I keep going and doing this. It captures life. Us. Here. Now. These moments. The good. The bad. The ugly. The everything (yes, even trying out new things). Why we keep blogging when we are run down. Or when we just want to pull the plug and call it quits.
Blogging for her had always been a source of enjoyment as well as therapeutic. I suppose as a very driven working mother and wife there are things that just need to be expressed. This is what I loved most about her blog of the past. It is a snapshot of who she was and what she thought about. I am in a process of archiving this blog so my young children can reflect back on her in the future to help them remember the vibrant mother, wife, and woman she was. Small advice to the blogging community: Keep blogging and take small videos of yourself now and again. It doesn’t need to be of any profound subject matter, just you. If its not for your loved ones its for you to reflect on yourself.
I’m in a phase of preservation; some for myself but more for my young boys. She often was behind the camera more than in front and so there is not much video of her to truly display the wonderful person she was. The blog is very helpful in this area. -Lars Pak of Paklet Adventures
It’s why I do Mommy and Me Monday each and every week. To make sure we are in the pictures for our kids (hopefully when they are grown with grandchildren of their own). To have them to look back on and remind us of events and memories that were stored away deep. My blog is the baby book for the girls. Sure I share it with everybody. Sure I don’t know what will happen when they ask me to not put their pictures and stories out there for everybody. But, there will always be something.
For you. For them.
Thank you, Lars for the reminder. For keeping it real. For sharing your appreciation of your wife. Of her blog. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your boys.
Krystyn has been blogging since 2005. She is a sarcasm-loving, straight-shooting, jeans and t-shirts wearing, wife and mom of four girls (ages 10, 8, 5 and 3). She blogs about life as a mom and wife and includes anecdotes, funny stories (both mommy and other), family travel and more. She currently resides in the Atlanta suburbs.
I have been seriously considering blogging for months now. But kept thinking who really cares about my everyday life…except my family of course. This made me see THAT”S EXACTLY who I should do it for! Thank you for sharing! Memories are the absolute best gift we can ever give the ones we love♥ Bubblefish Lane here I come 🙂
Congrats, Donna! It’s great for family (my grandma and mom and sister read all the time….which of course means, I can’t blog about them!) Make sure you participate in Mommy and Me Monday and congrats on Bubblefish Lane!
Wow. I have goosebumps and tears in my eyes….. What a beautiful post. Good Morning America just did a terrible piece bashing moms that keep putting photos of their kids online. They should read this!
I heard about that segment, and I’m glad I didn’t see it because I think I would be truly upset about it. They really should read this and his post, too!
I need to get back to my roots with my blog. Why I originally started blogging. I have been doing so many giveaways lately, I haven’t had a chance to blog for me, for my family. Thank you for this.
Oh my goodness, that’s sad. I’m very sorry to hear she’s passed. How kind and thoughtful of her husband to update her readers and more importantly to preserve a big part of her for them by preserving what she wrote.
good thing i have read this. Sort of motivation for me to blog more.
Oh my. That is heartbreaking but a great point! I blogged for a while but had a strong niche and had it in my head that I shouldn’t post anything but that. That lead to burn out and then eventually I stopped blogging. Then recently I went back, deleted it, reworked my blog and now I think I love where it is and I think I will be able to stick with it. This is such a profound post. Thank you and him for sharing this!
I’m sure you are super glad you’ve come back. But a break is nice, too!