They say you’ve made it big when the nasty and troll comments come in. Even if it’s just a couple here or there. As writers, we have to not take them personally. But, personally, it’s hard for me not to.
There is way too much of people (mothers and women especially) tearing each other down instead of building each other up. It’s harmful, hurtful and downright mean. Nothing good will come of it. (Does the person doing the tearing down get a “high” from it? Does it really make them feel better?)
We see moms writing things like “It must be nice…” or “Aren’t you lucky that you get to….” Just like with anything, it takes hard work. It takes time. Pretty much everything takes hard work. Why must we be so mean, critical and harsh to people that are busting their butts and winning at life? Or even having a small victory?
Be happy for them. Celebrate them. Give them a loud “hell yeah, girl. YOU ARE AWESOME AND YOU’VE GOT THIS!”
Build them up
Pay them a compliment.
- “What did you do with your hair today? It looks amazing!”
- “I love that color on you!”
- “Your kids are behaved so well today!”
- “This dinner is awesome!”
Do something nice for somebody out of the blue
- Do a random act of kindness
- Hold open a door for a person and linger a little longer
- Engage a stranger in conversation at the store
- Ask somebody how you can help them
Call a loved one and tell them they are rocking something.
- Grandpa Joe called me out of the blue one day and told me what an awesome mom I am. If that doesn’t make a mom smile, I don’t know what does.
- Call your mom and thank her for raising you right (you know she deserves some credit).
- Call a sibling and ask their opinion on something that they are awesome at.
- Reach out of a friend and lift them up
Tell them it gets easier/better/more awesome
- At a restaurant, a man approached our table (I brace myself for the redhead or all girl comments), and instead he said “you are so blessed to have an awesome family. It is such a wonderful thing and so amazing!” Guaranteed smiles.
- Help distract a kid at the store/ park/ in line that is obviously having a hard time. You’d be amazing what a compliment to an upset kid will do and how much it will help a mom out. A 1 minute conversation that distracts a kid is an eternity to a parent.
Leave a comment
- Find a new blog and leave a nice supportive comment.
- See a post in your FB stream that’s getting a lot of hate? Find something positive to say.
Find a way this week to help build somebody up. If you find yourself tearing them down, bite your tongue, hold your typing fingers and click the little “X” and walk away. You have nothing to gain with ugliness and everything to lose.